Je suis d'accord avec vous toutes.
Ces problèmes existaient naturellement bien avant internet et la généralisation des téléphones portables.
Il s'agit bien là d'un problème de société, une "habitude" que l'on a prise d'excuser les garçons mais de punir les victimes si elles se défendent.
Ce sentiment d'impunité chez les garçons et d'injustice chez les filles pour lesquelles on ne fait rien explique en grande partie la généralisation du phénomène dans toutes les couches de la société et à tout âge. C'est à ce moment là qu'il faudrait enrayer les différences de traitement et punir les malfaiteurs pour qu'ils comprennent que ce genre de comportement n'a rien de normal, et même pire, qu'il s'agit de délits, voire de crimes, selon la gravité des cas.
De mon côté, j'ai hélas les mêmes anecdotes que vous : jupes soulevées, fesses pincées, insultes, propositions salaces. Avec cependant quelques professeurs qui avaient très bien réagi (ma prof de français de 6e qui nous avait fait un point sur le sexisme après qu'un garçon avait demandé une fellation à une fille...).
Je vis en ce moment à Oxford. Mon collège est dans les journaux en ce moment : http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/may/15/sexist-laddism-abuse-somerville-college-oxford
Je trouve la réaction de la principale extrêmement juste : défendre les victimes, blâmer les coupables, donner des aides à des fonds pour l'éducation contre ces comportements sexistes.
Spoiler (je n'arrive pas à mettre la balise spoiler, pardon) : Voici le mail que nous avions reçu d'elle avant que la presse n'en ait vent.
Je suis désolée pour celles qui ne parlent pas anglais, mais je n'ai pas le temps de traduire :
Respect and Equality in the College
We all share a pride in Somerville’s great traditions of fairness, diversity and tolerance. This is a college where people feel free to “be who they want to be” in the words of some of you, to choose their friends and their way of life, and to respect the right of others to make their choices. I hear often when I meet you individually, how strong this ethic of tolerance and respect is at Somerville; and it is the quality above all others that I value most in the college.
In recent months there has been a deterioration in this climate of respect. Many of you will not have noticed it and I believe it is confined to a small minority. But members of that minority have succeeded in making significant numbers of their fellow students feel threatened, intimidated, or simply uncomfortable. I have received reports of rude and sometimes threatening behaviour on a scale unprecedented in my time as Principal. This behaviour cannot be condoned as simply the result of ‘high spirits’. Often it is undoubtedly the result of having consumed too much alcohol. What some people may regard as simply having a bit of fun at the expense of other students has tipped over, far too often, into unacceptable and anti-social behaviour. It is profoundly worrying to find that members of the student body in Somerville have been making their fellow students feel intimidated and in some cases have been guilty of both verbal and physical assault.
Here are some examples from a long list:
·Rape jokes in a chat group. Jokes about rape overheard in the bar, in the line for Hall and on the JCR Facebook noticeboard.
·Reports of a “rapey” atmosphere at bops, together with numerous reports of groping.
·Pressures on students to assent to sexual activity. Some of these pressures included dares and ridicule.
·Somerville students overheard in public places joking approvingly about being arrested for assault.
·Apparently homophobic comments used to justify opposition to the JCR equalities week budget. Other instances of people being taunted for their sexuality.
Let me repeat what I have said before (see below): the college will not tolerate any bullying, intimidation, violence or disrespect among members of Somerville.Rape is not a joke, as those who have been victims of it could tell you. Any level of sexual harassment is also not a joke: it is not acceptable that members of the college and their friends should be made to feel uncomfortable and disrespected here. The same is true of people’s personal sexual preferences, which are a private matter, to be treated with respect.
We need the help of those of you who have observed and deplored this growing culture of sexual harassment, bullying and general misbehaviour. If you can point to named cases, please break the silence and report cases, with detailed evidence where possible, for example to peer supporters, tutors or the Deans. Your personal anonymity will be protected, but without your help we cannot take appropriate disciplinary action. With your help, we can bring to an end this period of excessively harassing and intimidating behaviour by a small minority. That behaviour has no place in Somerville and it must stop. Please help us to make it stop NOW.
With my best wishes, and thanks for your attention,
Alice Prochaska
Principal
8 May 2015
Ces problèmes existaient naturellement bien avant internet et la généralisation des téléphones portables.
Il s'agit bien là d'un problème de société, une "habitude" que l'on a prise d'excuser les garçons mais de punir les victimes si elles se défendent.
Ce sentiment d'impunité chez les garçons et d'injustice chez les filles pour lesquelles on ne fait rien explique en grande partie la généralisation du phénomène dans toutes les couches de la société et à tout âge. C'est à ce moment là qu'il faudrait enrayer les différences de traitement et punir les malfaiteurs pour qu'ils comprennent que ce genre de comportement n'a rien de normal, et même pire, qu'il s'agit de délits, voire de crimes, selon la gravité des cas.
De mon côté, j'ai hélas les mêmes anecdotes que vous : jupes soulevées, fesses pincées, insultes, propositions salaces. Avec cependant quelques professeurs qui avaient très bien réagi (ma prof de français de 6e qui nous avait fait un point sur le sexisme après qu'un garçon avait demandé une fellation à une fille...).
Je vis en ce moment à Oxford. Mon collège est dans les journaux en ce moment : http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/may/15/sexist-laddism-abuse-somerville-college-oxford
Je trouve la réaction de la principale extrêmement juste : défendre les victimes, blâmer les coupables, donner des aides à des fonds pour l'éducation contre ces comportements sexistes.
Spoiler (je n'arrive pas à mettre la balise spoiler, pardon) : Voici le mail que nous avions reçu d'elle avant que la presse n'en ait vent.
Je suis désolée pour celles qui ne parlent pas anglais, mais je n'ai pas le temps de traduire :
Respect and Equality in the College
We all share a pride in Somerville’s great traditions of fairness, diversity and tolerance. This is a college where people feel free to “be who they want to be” in the words of some of you, to choose their friends and their way of life, and to respect the right of others to make their choices. I hear often when I meet you individually, how strong this ethic of tolerance and respect is at Somerville; and it is the quality above all others that I value most in the college.
In recent months there has been a deterioration in this climate of respect. Many of you will not have noticed it and I believe it is confined to a small minority. But members of that minority have succeeded in making significant numbers of their fellow students feel threatened, intimidated, or simply uncomfortable. I have received reports of rude and sometimes threatening behaviour on a scale unprecedented in my time as Principal. This behaviour cannot be condoned as simply the result of ‘high spirits’. Often it is undoubtedly the result of having consumed too much alcohol. What some people may regard as simply having a bit of fun at the expense of other students has tipped over, far too often, into unacceptable and anti-social behaviour. It is profoundly worrying to find that members of the student body in Somerville have been making their fellow students feel intimidated and in some cases have been guilty of both verbal and physical assault.
Here are some examples from a long list:
·Rape jokes in a chat group. Jokes about rape overheard in the bar, in the line for Hall and on the JCR Facebook noticeboard.
·Reports of a “rapey” atmosphere at bops, together with numerous reports of groping.
·Pressures on students to assent to sexual activity. Some of these pressures included dares and ridicule.
·Somerville students overheard in public places joking approvingly about being arrested for assault.
·Apparently homophobic comments used to justify opposition to the JCR equalities week budget. Other instances of people being taunted for their sexuality.
Let me repeat what I have said before (see below): the college will not tolerate any bullying, intimidation, violence or disrespect among members of Somerville.Rape is not a joke, as those who have been victims of it could tell you. Any level of sexual harassment is also not a joke: it is not acceptable that members of the college and their friends should be made to feel uncomfortable and disrespected here. The same is true of people’s personal sexual preferences, which are a private matter, to be treated with respect.
We need the help of those of you who have observed and deplored this growing culture of sexual harassment, bullying and general misbehaviour. If you can point to named cases, please break the silence and report cases, with detailed evidence where possible, for example to peer supporters, tutors or the Deans. Your personal anonymity will be protected, but without your help we cannot take appropriate disciplinary action. With your help, we can bring to an end this period of excessively harassing and intimidating behaviour by a small minority. That behaviour has no place in Somerville and it must stop. Please help us to make it stop NOW.
With my best wishes, and thanks for your attention,
Alice Prochaska
Principal
8 May 2015
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