@lafeemandarine ,je crois que le mec n'a pas compris le but du site en fait et considère ce site comme une variante de meetic et okcupid....![facepalm :facepalm: :facepalm:](https://forum.mmzstatic.com/smilies/Facepalm_emote.gif)
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"She is a deadbeat mom and the court won't do anything"
No, she has complied with the court ordered monetary support requirements.
That is all she is required to do, ever.
She is not at all a "deadbeat" -- the only problem here is that you want to shirk your responsibility as a single parent and dump the work on someone else because of one or all of these things:
"she wanted an abortion and I didn't and she made it clear she would never be involved after the birth"
- You're too cheap to hire a nanny, and want the court to order her to be your free slave instead.
- You are abusive and want power over her because she escaped you, and you have an abusive mentality and can't stand that your plan to control her failed.
- You're too selfish to accept that you are not parent material and simply arrange an adoption to a qualified parent or parents who can do the job they sign up for, unlike you.
If you did not want to be an exhausted, cranky, single parent, then you should have simply said "Yeah, abortion! Awesome! Best idea ever!" and then promptly driven her to the clinic, put your money on the counter and supported her for the few days after that.
Then none of the three of you would be living this nightmare that you created.
You are the one that manipulated her into 'coerced birth'. So this was your doing.
If your life is a nightmare, it is 100% your choice of a nightmare.
You manipulated someone into having a child they did not want for you, into spending 9 months of their life incubating that child, into damaging their own health -- for your desire to have a child.
You did a selfish and cruel thing to her, and to the child.
Then on top of everything, you assumed that "magical fairy bonding" would happen and that you would go on to have her also raise the child for you while you did nothing of the parenting duties you so clearly hate, plus be your wife, and be a mother to a child she wanted to abort?!?!
Dude, seriously. You are living in cloud cuckoo land.
Of course she hates your guts. Of course she wants nothing to do with the child.
She didn't want the child, and she sure as hell has proven that she wants nothing to do with the person who manipulated her into childbirth.
And you want the court to further coerce her -- because why?? Oh, yeah, because parenthood is a grueling, exhausting, mundane, repetitive, 24/7/18 non-fucking-stop job?? Sorry but that's what you sign up for as a parent.
If you can't hack it, then your option is to find a nice adoptive parent and sign over your rights. She most likely will be willing to agree to this as well, from the sound of it.
Then you get to walk away from the child and go back to your carefree life. Just do everyone a favor, however, get a vasectomy immediately because you're not qualified to be a parent or a good partner.
You are the only deadbeat in this story. You wanted a child with none of the work. It doesn't work like that."
Une amie à encore poster la déclaration de JP Pernault : "Oui on fait tout pour les migrants (je déteste ce mot) et rien pour nos bon sdf bien français"